December 9, 2018

You’re engaged! Now what?

Ahhhh!! He finally put a ring on it and now you are living on cloud 9 with that handsome hunk of yours you now get to call FIANCE 😍 what. is. this. life?! 

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! You have found the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and GIRL that is totally worth celebrating!! 🍾 You’ve popped the bubbly and told all your friends and family… but now what?

Chances are you’re totally overwhelmed with the 50 zillion timelines, articles, and well meaning advice from strangers on the internet (oh haiii that’s me, too 🙈) but from someone whose literal job is to go to weddings, let me share a couple things to think about that all those other sites probably aren’t going to mention.

A golden hour engagement session in Fort Mill, South Carolina with Ashley Sue Photography

1. Consider your expectations

You’ve probably been dreaming about this day since you were a little girl playing Barbie’s in your Lisa Frank adorned bedroom. Him? Not so much. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have expectations for what his wedding day might look like. And, contrary to popular belief, it’s his day too! 

Chances are, his number one priority is going to be giving you the wedding of your dreams. Just make sure you don’t steamroll any ideas he might have and set a yucky feeling before you even get started on matrimonial bliss. A simple, ‘what were you thinking for the wedding?’ can go a long way in helping him feel included in the planning process. 

This doesn’t mean you have to walk down the aisle to his college fight song, but maybe walking into the reception to it would be a good compromise? You love this stud of yours, remember? 

bride and groom photos at sunset, Indian Wedding, Charlotte Wedding Photographer, Washington DC Wedding

2. Set your priorities

Unless you’re Taylor Swift, you’re still going to be working on a budget of both time and money. So, it’s important to sit down with your fiance and list out what is most important to you on your wedding day. Maybe you know that you want to have a video to look back on, or maybe you’ve always dreamed of huge floral archways to say your vows under, or maybe that Vera Wang organza dress has been calling your name since undergrad. Whatever your heart desires, make a list of your ‘must haves’ and ‘don’t really cares’ now before you get into the nitty gritty of planning and those ‘must haves’ turn into ‘forgotten abouts’.

Wondering how you can stretch that time budget? Hire a planner. Seriously, a good planner will not only save you a tremendous amount of time but will also know exactly how to make the most of that monetary budget, too. A good planner is worth their weight in gold. 
(need a rec? Check out my CLT Vendor Faves for the vendors that have totally wowed me in the past)

bride and groom kissing on beach in new york

2. Delegate, delegate, delegate.

Are you a control freak? Me, too. Seriously, look up the definition of Enneagram 3 and you’ll see my photo right beside it. When it comes to planning a wedding though, it’s nearly impossible to do all this yourself. Especially if you plan on continuing to work and maybe keeping your sanity, too. Plus, it’s more fun to brainstorm with your mom or besties (and future mother-in-law!) which tablescapes are best for conversation, or how to maximize your seating chart for the optimum dance party vibes. 

Delegation number 1? Ask your fiance what his number one priority is for the wedding. Then, get on the same page for what your expectations are – if he says video but then books the guys that recorded his favorite rap music video it probably isn’t going to be great for that romantic story telling vibe you had in mind – so make sure you talk through what you’re hoping for in the final product (and a price point!), and then set him loose. You chose a smart, resourceful man so he’s totally capable.

bride and groom sharing a romantic kiss in black and white under the bride's veil

If wedding photography is one of your priorities (which I hope it is!), I would love to hear more about your big day and see how I can best serve you and your fiance. I believe in wedding photography because it is one of the only things that you’ll be left with after the wedding day ends. The flowers fade, the food is gone, the music is long forgotten but the photos will be passed down for generations. I would love to give you your first heirloom as a family, your wedding photos. ❤️ Ashley Sue

Ashley Sue is a Charlotte based Wedding and Lifestyle Photographer specializing in capturing the moments in between the posing. Ashley can best be described as energetic, optimistic, and a perpetual romantic.

While Ashley has photographed weddings nationwide from simple church ceremonies to elaborate ballroom receptions; her authentic + joyful style shines brightest in outdoor locations such as the Blue Ridge mountains of Asheville, NC and architecturally rich surroundings of Charlotte, North Carolina (and Paris. Always, always, always Paris.).

Ashley is available for travel world-wide + is passport ready. Contact Ashley today to book your 2019 or 2020 wedding.

Ashley is also the founder of The Biz Babe Collective; a community of women supporting women so that our sisters, our friends, and our daughters will never wonder if they can do what we are doing today.

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